Sunday 24 July 2022

An Ode to my Dad Part 2

 

An Ode to my Dad Part 2 .... (31 July 1940 to 09 Jan 2001)

Arjun Ramchand Mulwani
31 July 1940 to 09 Jan 2001
 
Civil Engineer by profession. A true Leo by nature. A doting and a strict Father.

Had posted part one last year on 29th July, and this being his birthday month, had to write another one. Got a very good reason as well to pen down this one.

This one's going to be simple too. Its the things Dad did for me knowingly and unknowingly. Growing up we didnt have a lot of money and were in fact a hand to mouth family. In spite of the most difficult personal and financial circumstances, Papa made my life interesting, comfortable and provided me holistic growth and nurturing in whatever way he could and in the little money we had.

1. Reading - As a kid, I never wanted to read. I was a studious kid and used to have my hands full with school studies so never wanted to indulge in anything more outside of it. Dad was adamant and used to often have fights with me that I wasn't reading anything else. However, he wasn't the types to give up so easily and not on me for sure. So he did the below things to make me read.
  • Newspaper marking - Through the day, he would read the maximum of the newspaper, and later when he retired, he would almost finish it. He used to buy the 4 refill pen that had red/blue/black and green 4-in-1 ball-pen. Every evening I would get the paper handed over - anything marked in red has to be read on priority, next was blue, and then was green. Anything marked in black was optional / weekend reading. I was asked questions from what I read, and there would be wholesome dinner table and midnight discussions on those topics. Omg, how i miss those times!!
  • Magazines and subscriptions - He got me talking on why I don't want to read and if I ever did what topics / books it would be. So he figured I wasn't the novel / fiction person at all. My first book was gifted by him called as Picnic Papers, which is a book on different types of picnics around the world, how they are celebrated etc. I finished the book within a week and then he got me a subscription for magazines - India Today, Illustrated Weekly, Mayapuri, Femina, a few Film magazines, Mid-Day, and the one that hooked me to reading was "Readers Digest". Interesting that I subscribed to readers digest after almost 25 + years now again. And I got its first issue just this week. Many many hours spent in reading them together, exchanging notes and discussing things I didn't understand.
  • Crossword solving and dictionary discussions - Mid day crosswords had to be solved at least 2-3 times a week. And he would randomly pick a word from the dictionary and ask me its meaning. Then make sentences. And he would give me points out of 10 for those.
2. His love for Stationery - I have been gifted all sorts of pens, colors, brushes, erasers, fancy scales, notebooks, labels and anything that could make my writing and painting better.

3. Painting / Drawing - I will never be able to draw or paint like him, but whatever lil flair I have is bcos of him. Its genetic and he taught me .... especially outlining anything correctly. He used to help me draw and paint correctly for all my school and college submissions. Not to mention his handwriting was like "kaagaz pe moti". He made my writing clearer, better and beautiful when I was in standard 3. As a result of that, along with some other classmates, I used to be chosen for filling in the school registers at the beginning of the year, those days it was all handwritten in my school. Very less typing and no computers either.  He would also help me with the quote of the day that I would need to write on the school board, when on duty for that. I don't remember a day when i needed something in stationery and I had to ask twice, never! Infact, I had an overdose at times of things. I overindulge in this, even now, sometimes.

4. Food - My food habits are 90% like him, except that I am not a huge nonvegetarian eater. Its him who would always want simple home food on regular home days, no fuss, no demands and would eat every vegetable, so do I. We were not allowed to ask mum "aaj khaane mein kya hai" .... he would say khushnaseeb ho ke table pe khaana hai. At the same time, every weekend he would pamper us with food from different restaurants. He would take us out or he would go and get it packed. No Zomato / swiggy that time, you see ๐Ÿ˜Ž. Never said no for any restaurant, unless it was so expensive that we couldn't afford it. When we, with time, became a lil okay financially, fine dine restaurants were a regular place to go to at least once a month. He was a great cook himself. And I say this, cos when he married mum, she didn't know even the names of the ingredients used in the kitchen. And he taught her, all of it. And my mum's an excellent sindhi home cook. I always saw them bonding over food. And his way of showering love on us kids, was also hugely through food. He taught me how to knead dough, how to make good chai, etc.

5. Music - His HMV Record player from the 1970s and the hugeeeeeee collection of round vinyl disc records. Oh God, how I regret giving it away. Our first Sony tape recorder. And then the CD players etc .... He first took me to a cassette shop and let me pick 10 cassettes of my own choice. Every month I was allowed to buy one cassette when I was in school. He would listen to English songs of those days and help me save money to even buy some cassettes in black. ๐Ÿ˜œ. Singing with him, listening to his singing almost all the time when he was at home, was beautiful. The day he didnt sing, we knew, aaj pange nahi lene hain !

I have seen him save and spend money on finer things of life. While ensuring that our health and all other requirements were satisfied at least to the bare minimum. Not all good things need a lot of good money. Easy to use, simple and dedicated activities can bring so much joy, education and overall growth in children. Its something I have experienced first hand. I cannot be like my Dad, but I try to give as much as I can to my child and its not money.

Signing off for now. More next year!


Friday 17 June 2022

Keh lene do aaj!

Kuch rang birangi deewarein hain,

Jo hamesha bachaaya karti hain,

Ek barsaati hai saath,

Baarish mein baithke chai peete, 

ungliyon pe tapkati boondein dekhne ke liye,

Ek khidki se phool dikhte hain,

Dusri se titliyaan,

Darwaaze kee dehleez pe dhoop pighalti hai,

Aur chhat se khulaa aasmaan muskurata hai,

Taare aur chaand aaine mein jhalak dikhaa jaate hain,

Jahan pahuncke sukoon ka ehsaas hai,

Yahan ruk ke manzil ka khayaal hai,

Chamaktee hui raunakein hain,

Tyohaar ho jaise shayad koi,

Inn kuch deewaron, khidkiyon, taaron ke beech,

Woh aashiyana dikhta hai abhi mujhe,

Kya hai yeh sab, aur kaun ho tum?

Gunjaish thee shayad pehle, Ab yaakeen ho mera, 

Keh lene do aaj, Tum Ghar ho mera! 


- Hirinder 17june2022










Thursday 11 November 2021

Two minutes/เฅจ เคฎिเคจिเคŸ

 2 minutes / เฅจ เคฎिเคจिเคŸ ...


Two minutes baby, เคœเคฌ เคฎां เคฎैเค—ी เคฌเคจाเคจे เค•ा promise เค•เคฐเค•े เค•िเคšเคจ เคฎें เคœाเคคी เคนै,

Two minutes baby, jab woh unse 'call back เค•เคฐเคคी เคนूं', เค•ेเคนเคคी เคนै,

เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคฎें เค†เคˆ, when she tells the เคธเคฌ्เคœीเคตाเคฒा and goes to fetch his Diwali money,

เฅจ เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคฆेเคจा pls, when Dad tells the child to get ready for taking him out for a bike ride,

Just two mins okay, that's the tenth time she's said it before finally being ready,

Do เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคฎें เคจिเค•เคฒा, เคœเคฌ เคฌเคš्เคšे เคจเคนाเคจे เคœाเคคे เคนैं เค”เคฐ เคนเคฐ เฅงเฅฆ เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคฎें เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ add เค•เคฐเคคे เคนैं,

เคชเค•्เค•ा เคธिเคฐ्เคซ two minutes, when the family is waiting for dinner and sirji is on a เค‘เคซिเคธ เค•ॉเคฒ,

Yaar 2 minutes sachchi, jab dost Ghar ke neeche wait kar rahein ho, aur bhai hamara gf se phone pe video call pe hai,

2 เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคฆेเคฆो mom, jab เคฌिเคŸिเคฏा เคฏा เคฌेเคŸू, เคฌเคธ เคตो เคฒाเคธ्เคŸ เคเค• เคชैเคฐाเค—्เคฐाเคซ complete karke, kitchen mein help karne aayegi ya aayega,

Two minutes darling, when she's closing the door and he's honking the horn from the car,

Do เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคฌेเคŸा, when she's bringing in the hot chapatis from the kitchen and you are banging the เคฅाเคฒी at the table,

Bahut se aise เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ make our lives,

เค•เคˆ เคฆो เคฎिเคจเคŸों เคจे เคฌเคนुเคค เคช्เคฏाเคฐ เคฆिเคฏा เคนै,

เค•ाเคซी two minutes เคฎें we have our memories,

Yeh two minutes / เฅจ เคฎिเคจिเคŸ, เคฆो เคธाเคฒ เค•े เค•เคฎाเค เคชैเคธों เคฎें เคจाเคช เคจเคนी เคธเค•เคคे,

เค”เคฐ เค‡เคจ เคฆो เคฎिเคจเคŸों เค•ी เค–ुเคถिเคฏों เคฎें, เค•เคญी เคฆो เค˜ंเคŸे, เค•เคญी เคฆो เคฆिเคจ เค”เคฐ เค•เคญी เคฆो เคธाเคฒ เค•े เค•เคฎाเค เคชैเคธों เค•ी เคœเคฐूเคฐเคค เคชเคก़เคคी เคนै।


เคธเคฌเค•े เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ, เคนเคฎेเคถा เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคธे เคœ्เคฏाเคฆा เคนुเค เคนै, 

เค”เคฐ เค•เคญी เค•िเคธीเคจे เค•เคฎ เคจเคนी เค•िเค เคนैं,

เค†เคช เคธเคฌเค•ो เค†เคชเค•े เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคนเคฎेเคถा เค–ुเคถ เคฐเค–े,

เคธเคญी เค•े เคฆो เคฎिเคจिเคŸ เคนเคฎेเคถा เคธเคฌเค•े เคธाเคฅ เคฐเคนे।


- Hirinder / เคนिเคฐिंเคฆเคฐ

Thursday 21 October 2021

Love is ...

 Love never signed up for feminism vs patriarchy,

It didn't want pre-nups or contracts,

It didn't ask for wins and losses,

Love didn't ask for one upmanship or to be shown it's place,

It didn't play games of the lust and the wars,

Love never meant to see courtrooms or walls,

It never withheld itself to torture a soul, or fine a kind heart,

Love never lived in denial, nor did it hide under the garb of friendship,

Love never walked with the one who calculated,

It never ran with the one who didn't walk with it,

Love never wanted the glory or the worship,

It never lied to the one it loved, it never hid the truth,


But, love could not for long, all give, and never not ask,


Love is not what you think, it is all that you didn't accept,

It is all that you refuse to see, it is all that you could be,


Love s all that is me and it's all that you could never be!


- Hirinder

Saturday 16 October 2021

The Waiting ... When !

 The waiting ...when....


 A child is promised a toy,

A teacher is promised the results,

A student is promised a career,

An employee is promised a promotion,

A woman is promised fertility,

A man is promised a house,

A pet is promised kindness,

A bride is promised 'her' home,

A groom is promised a family,

A girl is promised forever love,

A boy is promised forever her,

A night is promised a dawn,

A sky is promised a sun,

The puddles are promised a jump,

The bees are promised flowers,

The wings are promised a flight,

The flights are promised a landing,

The giggles are promised a laughter, 

The whispers are promised a talk,

The watch promises time, 

The time promises love,

A new life promises happiness,

A new plant promises fruit,

An old purse promises a lost coin,

An old suit promises memories,

When he promises a ring,

And she promises a life,

The calendar promises a date,

The date promises history,

A life promises a journey,

A journey promises a destination!



All these are one line stories, waiting to be told, waiting to be heard, waiting to be owned!

The waiting when, it's beautiful and not all waiting is a game!

The waiting when, all promises are fulfilled,

And not when it lands up in a game!


- Hirinder


Monday 20 September 2021

Words !

 Words, 

I leave them on my pillow, 

some I drop near my office desk,

A few I scribble on my mirror,

Some are lining my eyes using that kohl,

Many are on the walls of my heart,

Quite some are scattered outside our room,

Some visit in my dreams to have a conversation in the middle of the night,

They trickle down on the window pane when it rains,

During prayers, some are caught between my folded hands,

Some appear on the food plate, with forks,

In the folds of the clothes he wears, they are hidden,

Holding onto the window curtains, a few are always hanging,

Wrapped in the unused gift papers, a few are waiting to be seen,

Not knowing how they reached there, many are on his lips,

The pen inside my diary, keeps playing with a few,

Wondering why they don't get noticed, some get crushed daily under the rolling pin,

The shopkeeper returns a few to me, with the exact change he sometimes has,

Lost are little of those in the documents I complete everyday,

My son, sends some to me when he smiles during a busy day,

Dancing are a few found inside my friends message,


Words, many are everywhere, from what I chose,


Words, I need to collect them, before I write one of those!!


- © Hirinder

Thursday 9 September 2021

Are they?

Are the erasers and sharpeners, still talking to each other about that child?
Is the tiffin box still waiting for it to be burnt in the morning?
Is the bus seat still wanting to be torn by that compass?
Is the school bell still waiting to hear the roar?
Is the school toilet wall still waiting for that name to be written on it?
Are the cafeteria plates awaiting the next stain on them?
Is that boy in the class still waiting to catch her on the staircase?
Is the playground still waiting for the stampede?
Are the yoga mats awaiting the bum burns?
Is the whiteboard waiting for a date?
Is the desk waiting to be scribbled on?
Are the benches wondering where the gums are being stuck on?
Are the corridors wondering why has it not heard the laughter since long?

The children are waiting and wondering, even if all of them aren't!

- hirinder