And the frogs continue to croak!!!

So two more girls got raped! Minors!! Killed!! So what? I mean, really, so what?

An honorable minister said, "ladkon se galti ho jaati hai".

We continue to smile. We continue to ignore. Presuming these things will die its own natural death.

For a few minutes look at things objectively, instead of objectifying women all the time. I know its tough, lets try though!

So let's define rape! Should we?

Sex without consent is rape.

That happens in a lot of marriages too, right? No, no, I didn't say its rape. No one calls it that.

What do you call ogling? Oh yes, I forgot, its call eve-teasing. 

And how do you define the boob pressing, butt pinching "aam aadmi" on the road, who knows how to fight for his human rights but doesn't care about the dignity of his wife who he just hammered up at home.

Another friend of mine said she wasnt getting a groom only because she was thin and dark. So going through the torture of being criticised for shape, colour, size, hair, dressing style, teeth (I get plenty of teeth criticism, personally!), financial status etc isnt rape at all. Its just a demanding social situation.

My maid of 16 years was made to abort three girls before she took a hard stand and fought back. No, that of course is not rape. That's a social issue. She has ensured both her daughters are graduate, elder one married to an IPS. Son is studying well too. She is still getting ill-treated by her drunk husband on most days in a month. That's just a bad marriage. Whoever said its rape?

When a woman decides to not have children, she is questioned about her fertility. She can be made to go through hell by her own friends, colleagues, parents and in-laws for this. She can be endlessly tortured for having decided to treat her body, her soul and her life as per her will. This definitely doesn't qualify as rape. Does it?

So when a mother-in-law tells the daughter-in-law to divorce the husband, get married to a panditji, then remarry the husband and that will help resolve her conceiving issues ... its definitely not rape! Its just a medical way of resolving infertility issues :).

Many minor and young girls in India are sexually abused. By teachers, doodhwala, bhajiwala, friendly neighbourhood uncle, the neighbours' dude son, cousin brother, driver .... and they don't even know its sexual abuse. Oh, but since it wasn't intercourse, how can we call it rape.... I am getting damn old - I keep forgetting the definition of rape, you see!. 

Girls are denied right to education in the name of marriage, caste, community requirements or social obligations. She can be married of as a minor to a man double her age for the sake of some custom followed since generations. She will be forced to consummate the marriage even before she understands the meaning of it. Did we hear the word rape anywhere?

What do you call a man who vehemently "targets" all divorcees and single mothers for casual sex? How many times do men not fake love to get into their pants? But, women carry on with their lives in the name of lessons learned, false positivity and forgiveness. LoL. What rape?

How do you treat people (men and women, both!) who pass comments on women saying things as ..."Deti hai kya? Yaar kisiko toh deti hogi ... shaadi mein khush toh nahi hai shayad". Ab woh leti hai ya deti hai, usse kya tere ghar ki roti kam sikti hai???? No, ofcourse this does not classify as rape.

How do you treat that security guard and housekeeping staff at super market's, theatres and malls ... whose sole purpose is to scan the woman inside out with his eyes. He must be mentally orgasming 100 times a day and we still smile at him courteously. I am only being kind by not generalising this behaviour to all men, because some idiotic faith is still telling me sab aise nahi hote. Na, na ... we are not discussing rape here.

Ill-treatment and ridicule of homosexuals, eunuchs, handicapped, mentally ill, is normal in our country. Accepted and expected. 

 

Indian TV soaps are filled with back stabbing, bitching, crying, agonising mad women. Women behaving badly with other women. Most of these have women as villains. I wonder which household has such idiotic ladies. That's not the real Indian woman. Bring programs that enlighten our society and help people to change their outlook.

It is beyond high time we questioned our values and principles. Our tolerance to human imperfections!! Our acceptance of the differently abled. Our own capacity to change and to grow, question it and if you find a real, doable answer, you are on the right track. 

 

The situation maybe changing. Girls are growing in their careers, studying abroad, living alone, not getting married, financially independent ... all this is happening.
But the % of reform in society still doesn't count towards tangible progress.

Coming back to the point, this is yet another incident and one more reason for social media's verbal diarrhoea! Can India really be awakened?! I am hopeful, at least so far, I have tried to remain very hopeful. I say this because I have fought back whenever I could and have tried to maintain my dignity in the most dim situations. And I see a lot of my friends, colleagues, neighbours and relatives not giving up.

 

Many men in India need counselling and a spine, educated or not. Most women in India, need help & empowerment, educated or not.

I personally know some amazing men who give and take respect for the kind of people they are. We need more of these kinds amongst us. And we need these men to take a stand against their own gender and STOP RAPE.

STOP RAPE OF ALL KINDS! STOP RAPE OF ALL BEINGS!!

Else, We become, what we tolerate!!

Read this for general knowledge - http://www.legalserviceindia.com/articles/rape_laws.htm

Stay Safe, be strong and live right!